I am fortunate enough to have two beautiful daughters, my older one is in second grade but my little one is with me the whole time, oh I forgot to mention she does go to a preschool twice a week and for three hours. (Her teacher tells me even three days per week will be exhausting for the children!)
Now, I want to talk about our daily routine. So, Some times our days go this way: my little darling watches TV the whole day. She keeps asking me for something to eat (i observed these days she likes to keep munching some thing while she watches tv for long). She then gets bored of what she is watching and wants some thing else and keeps switching the programs.
In the mean time I watch my IPad while doing household chores. I watch programs like Koffee with karan or some Anupama chopra show and take double the time to do my chores. Since I don’t want to be disturbed watching what ever I am and you know am ‘busy working’ I just get her what ever she wants and do what ever pleases her.
Then it’s time for me get my older daughter, and the little one does not want to come coz she wants to watch the same thing she has been watching for hours and already got so bored but still can’t part with it. She is all cranky and fights with her big sister once she is back. All this leads to a very irritated mood that carries forward to the end of the day. And then I complain to my husband about how this girl has become so trouble some, she has been watching tv all day still she is bored and bugs me so much.
Now ,other than the Anupama Varma shows I also watch mommy shows and Tara sharma is my favorite. And I watch an episode about technology and it effects me a little….
So, this day starts a bit differently. I try to involve my little one in my chores. Here, she is amused by every thing, washing dishes is funny for her and she loves when she hears the sputtering sounds in the kitchen. She can’t resist touching the flour. She loves cleaning the floor too. She also asks me weird questions, when am done with dishes and trying to clean the sink she says, mom do you wash that too, with such cute innocence.
And am amused with her funny remarks. My blue washing liquid is like Elsa (frozen) and any thing green is a dinosaur. We laugh and have fun. Am not reminded of my regular programs and she does not miss her TV. We entertain each other. I know some times it is exausting, yes, my whole kitchen gets messy, sometimes it’s flour on the floor and sometimes water on the carpet (something my husband is so upset about) but it’s still ok and much better than she watching play doh and surprise egg vedios. As while playing she is touching things with her own hands and experiencing them rather than just imagining.
She learns so much, she abviously keeps asking me questions like where do tomatoes come from and why should I put salt in every thing. She also counts with me and reasons with me. And watching me in the kitchen develops much more interest in eating her food. But I learn a lot too. Communicating with her like this teaches me so much about her, other than just talking to her about not touching some thing or why she should eat some thing. She sometimes tells me things that happen in her school, some thing she never likes to talk about other wise how much ever I try.
I know I can’t completely aviod our screen time filled days and I don’t expect to do that either. I rather wish for a balance where she learns switching back to the real world form lazily sitting and more often laying on the couch and imagining herself as one of those characters and literally doing nothing and munching some unhealthy snacks(even better). But kids learn through example, so first I have to learn not to respond to my phone every time it beeps. And to treat an important email from my kids school and a forwarded joke on watsapp differently.
So let me come straight to the point, I think the documentary should be banned because it is worse than a lot of things we have been watching through the years:
Firstly, those prime time crime shows which inform us about the various crimes in such an interesting way, u know, like wait and watch after the break to see what happens next.. Break ke Baad. They are almost like little crash courses on how to do various crimes. They are aired just for the sadistic pleasure of certain people who want to see this thing last before bed. Definitely India’s Daughter is worse than this.
Then, those rape scenes in our Indian movies especially South Indian, especially in the nineties, which were just added for titilation and were an alternative to the today’s item numbers. And the solution for it was most interesting , the girl marries the rapist and the act becomes……sacred, you know. So we have to agree the documentary is worse than this for sure.
Also, those daily soaps where we can learn how an Indian ‘bahu’ has to behave how she has lead her life. These soaps that air every day trying to impose the same thing every day, are surely better than the documentary.
Let’s see, those songs which are so pleasing and nice. They describe woman in such a beautiful way, a woman comparing herself to various delicacies and all. And also those songs where a boy keeps chasing the girl, against her wish but then at the end of the song she accepts the guy. So this is better than india’s daughter.
So let’s conclude we have been watching lot of stuff and sadly showing these things to our kids too, but now when somebody tries to show us the reality it is banned……
Let’s not stop discussing this and make those little changes in our own lives to make this world a better place.